Remember the first time you saw your first-born child? You might have been amazed at her eyes, or mesmerized by the perfection of his hands. You might have dutifully recorded the first smile, the first laughs, the first steps, the first dance. He or she became the most important individual in your life. When that little person came into your world, you realized that your life had changed forever.
There is nothing quite like the joy of parenthood. It can lift your spirits on the most miserable day. And it gives you a reason to rise in the morning. When you give your child a hug at night, you know that all is right with the universe.
However, parenthood can also be quite stressful.
- Spend plenty of time on kids
There are so many demands on your time, so many commitments you need to fulfill. Your responsibilities can leave you feeling anxious and frustrated. If your child is sick, or is having trouble in school, or has become involved in drug or alcohol abuse, your stress level could rise to the max. You need to spare a lot of time dealing with these issues which might affect your working productivity.
- Uncontrollable behavior
Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to eliminate the stressors associated with parenthood. While you can guide your child, you cannot expect to control him or her, especially when your child reaches the teenage years. Teenager meant the time they go through physical and mental changes. You can expect a certain level of uncontrollable to their behavior particularly on the issue of intruding their social community and their ambition.
- Do not communicate well with kids
Many parents communicate with their kids differently from the approach towards their peers or colleagues. And parent tends to communicate with their kids as a one-way channel or we called it command style. For example, many parents want their kids to be the star in their class, but they never communicate with their kids to understanding the difficulty and courses to take in order to achieve the result. It’s causes pressure when the kids reluctant to communicate to you too.
- Too worried about their academy result
Kids are expected to score high in school in order to make their parents proud of it. Some parents monitoring their closely on their kid’s assignment, score and activities and expect them to obtain a good rate on the parent own measurement. When the kids fail to achieved those overly high expectations, this will brings them stress and anxiety.
- Single parent lack of support
Mention needs to be made about the special stress that single parents feel. Theirs is a lot difficult and the pressures can be intense. That is why it is so critically important for single parents to strengthen their support systems. Single parents have to handle all the matters above solely alone.
To avoid excessive pressure on parenthood, here some tactics to dealing with it:
- Keep on two-way communication between parents and kids. Mutual understanding is the key.
- Set aside certain time spend with kids. You need some fun time with your child, to let him or her know that you care.
- Give yourself a timeout, separating works and parenthood pressure.
- A single parent needs to set up a support system. They need to have a parent, brother or sister, or friend they can rely on when the stress of parenting becomes overwhelming.
- Encourage kids on doing a new thing, and teach them to accept failure.
- You need some relaxing activities which can help to alleviate your stress.
The most important strategy you can adopt is to keep the communication going between yourself and your child, even when it becomes difficult. Your stress level will be greatly reduced if you can talk with your child, especially when something is bothering him or her. It is important for your child to know that your love is unconditional, and that he or she can turn to you at any time of the day or night. Strengthening the bond of trust can do a great deal to eliminate your stress.